There are some subtle warning signs that we often ignore when an individual is hurting. These signs usually manifest as lashing out over minor situations. People may disconnect from their friends and family, social appearances, or jobs. Sometimes, the signs can be as subtle as a small comment on their social media page. An individual might suddenly decide that their best option is to lash out at the world in an unforgivable manner or end everything because they feel, “Who cares anyway!” The problem with these warning signs, whether subtle or extreme, is that the outside world, especially close friends and family, often dismisses an individual’s cries for help. Common responses include: “Just stop talking that mess,” “Remember, there are a lot more people doing worse than you,” or “Just pray and give it to God.” These statements only prove that the individual you are trusting with your feelings either can’t be bothered or just doesn’t know how to handle your situation.

There is a flyer going around with a hotline number attached, requesting others to spread the word “Suicide is real,” but my question is, why do we need a hotline number when most of us on social media have anywhere between 200 to 1000 friends or more? So why isn’t there anyone out there noticing your pain or cries for help? September is National Suicide Prevention Month. According to the CDC data accessed on CDC WONDER on June 17, 2024, and represents data received as of June 11, 2024, over 49,000 people died by suicide in 2022. That’s 1 death every 11 minutes. With that large number, let’s take a look at some warning signs, how families can help, and where to seek outside resources to prevent the loss of our loved ones. Remember, there’s always someone who can help; you just have to reach out and ask.

Subtle Warning Signs of Suicide

     Subtle warning signs of suicide can often be overlooked or dismissed, but they are crucial indicators that someone may be in distress. Changes in behavior and routine can suggest that an individual is struggling with suicidal thoughts. Some of these changes include:

1. Withdrawal from Social Activities: A person may start to isolate themselves from friends, family, and social events. They may avoid interactions and prefer to be alone.
2. Changes in Sleep Patterns: Noticeable changes in sleep, such as insomnia or excessive sleeping, can be a sign of emotional distress.
3. Loss of Interest: Losing interest in activities they once enjoyed, like hobbies, sports, or socializing, can indicate a deeper issue.
4. Neglecting Personal Appearance: A decline in personal hygiene and appearance can be a sign that someone is struggling.
5. Changes in Eating Habits: Significant changes in appetite, whether eating too much or too little, can be a warning sign.
6. Expressing Hopelessness: Making statements that convey a sense of hopelessness or worthlessness, such as “I can’t go on” or “There’s no point,” should be taken seriously.
7. Giving Away Possessions: If someone starts giving away their belongings or making arrangements for their affairs, it may indicate they are contemplating suicide.
8. Increased Substance Use: An increase in the use of alcohol or drugs can be a coping mechanism for emotional pain.

How Family Members Can Help

Family members play a crucial role in supporting someone who may be experiencing suicidal thoughts. Here are some ways they can help:

1. Open Communication: Encourage open and honest conversations about feelings and emotions. Let the person know that it’s okay to talk about their struggles.
2. Active Listening: Listen without judgment and provide a safe space for them to express their thoughts and feelings.
3. Show Empathy: Show understanding and compassion. Avoid dismissing their feelings or offering simplistic solutions.
4. Encourage Professional Help: Encourage them to seek help from mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors. Offer to help them find resources and make appointments.
5. Stay Connected: Regularly check in with them and offer your support. Let them know they are not alone.
6. Remove Access to Means: If possible, remove access to means of self-harm, such as firearms or medications.

Conclusion

     Recognizing the subtle warning signs of suicide and taking them seriously is crucial in preventing tragedy. Family members can offer support and encourage professional help by understanding changes in behavior and routine. Providing proper attention and resources can help individuals feel secure and loved, ultimately aiding in their healing process. Remember, listening, showing empathy, and staying connected to those who may be struggling are key practices that is essential to your loved one’s well-being.

Resources for Support

There are several resources available to help individuals who are struggling with suicidal thoughts:

1. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: A 24/7 hotline that provides confidential support for individuals in crisis. The number is 1-800-273-8255.
2. Suicide Hotline for youth: https://youth.gov/youth-topics/youth-suicide-prevention/preventing-youth-suicide
3. Crisis Text Line: Text “HELLO” to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor.
4. CDC Facts on Suicide: https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/facts/data.html
5. Therapists and Counselors: Professional mental health providers can offer therapy and support.
6. Support Groups: Joining support groups for individuals experiencing similar struggles can provide a sense of community and understanding.

 

That’s Cathy’s Perspective